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Love is goodbye

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“So many people enter and leave your life. Hundreds and thousands of people. You have to leave the door open to let them in but it also means you have to let them go.” – Jonathan Safran

 

This is the tragedy of love and loving. True love is letting go and being grateful for when they were.

One of the utter painful experiences in life

is the loss of love.

It is saying goodbye to friends, family, or lovers

not knowing if you’ll ever see them again.

Love is that squeeze in your breath and chest, when you remember how great it was in those moments with them.

Those times and places were shared with them and belongs to you all, not just one person.

Love is saying goodbye and suffering because you can’t chase them, love is letting them go and being grateful for that moment in both your lives when chance made you share it. Love made you want to relive it.

Love is goodbye.

Whose the asshole?

Sometimes we get carried away with ourselves and get overwhelmed. You’ve felt those moments you when you suddenly realise you’ve absorbed into yourself. Those days when everyone seems to be an asshole to you. Customers or clients at your job, colleagues, strangers in the street.. and never forgot other drivers on the road who can’t seem to drive without causing you grief. 

But what if they weren’t being the asshole?

“If you meet an asshole in the morning, then you’ve met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day then YOUR the asshole.”

This is a quote that hit me hard. Sometimes we just forget how self absorbed we’ve become. I know I have, and you have to step back, pull your head out from between your legs, remove the ‘bad day hat’ and accept you’re the one making your day bad. Smile and relax.

One lady at my workplace can be a real bitch without knowing it. One of those people who are constantly the victim. I told her this quote through a lie. To give this quote more legitimacy I breathed a story about my grandfather who would give me this quote as hand-me-down-life-advice. People always seem to believe something more if it isn’t coming from someone younger or closer to their age. So she heard these words through me but believed they were the culmination of an old man’s experiences. Pupils dilated she took in this knowledge and loved it.

two weeks later she snuck up on me at work and eagerly told me about her day yesterday. “I was driving around yesterday and was yelling at other cars on the road as everyone was driving like jerks. Then in the afternoon after I cursed a car under my breath I remembered what you said and realised i was being a bitch. I changed my who attitude for the rest of the day and began enjoying it without realising.” 

I keep realising I’m being an asshole every now and then, and i’m not even sure if its good or not cause I just end up feeling like a horrible person. Hopefully with time i will become more conscious of my attitude and how i treat people and will only see an asshole on the odd occasion and in the morning.

Whats your thoughts?